Location: New York, New York
Neighborhood: West Village
“That was the moment I realized. Even though she was still depressed and suicidal and everything, and I knew that—that I realized that no matter how much you love someone and how much they love you—even if you’re completely dependent on each other and wrapped up in each other’s world—there is some piece of everybody that is never going to be yours. And for Kathleen, that was her sickness.”
Location: Brooklyn, New York
Neighborhood: Clinton Hill
“And it happens. And stupid me, thought it would be something else, but that’s it. He was like, ‘I like you’ but I don’t know, it was more complicated for him than it was for me. For me it was easy, it was ‘Oh you want to be with me? Just be with me, let’s be together!’”
Location: Brooklyn, New York
Neighborhood: Clinton Hill
“I’ll never forget those beautiful dates. They were so beautiful, they made my hair rise on my head! I ain’t never seen those days like that…I was a gangsta, I was, not a gangsta–a runaround man. I was a get-around man, I didn’t never think I’d fall in love.”
Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
“We went on an almost nine month honeymoon to Europe, picked up a brand-new Volkswagen, and travelled all the countries in Europe. And one morning, in Toledo (outside Madrid), she said in a nice friendly voice: ‘Werner, it’s not going to work out, I’m sorry.’”
Location: Minneapolis, Minnesota
“My deal was, I didn’t think I could go on a legitimate date till I had a car. Turning sixteen was that critical point in a boy’s life. Prior to sixteen you’re nothing—you have a bicycle. You’re not gonna have your parents take you on a date. So the day I turned sixteen, I got my license and we went on our first date. So that was pretty spectacular.”
Location: White Lake, South Dakota
“Paul was going to be out with a girl one time. I don’t know, he was gonna take her to the prom or something…and he was worried how I was gonna take it because I was sooo in love with him, cause I was four, you know?”
Location: Loveland, Colorado
“When we’re younger, we’re more resilient, we’re more able to not, I think, reveal ourselves. I think he’s really not revealed himself to me until the last couple years.”
Location: Salt Lake City, Utah
“You just feel really good. You feel right about it. You feel a little nervous around them all the time…There’s no pressure, but at the same time there’s tension there. You keep each other chained to each other, in a sense.”
Location: Salt Lake City, Utah
“It felt right you know? I was thinking, this is way different than what I had before, way different from anything I’ve ever had. And we started falling in love.”
Location: Seattle, Washington
“I know it was because I really enjoyed the two of them together that I also enjoyed them both individually. Louie was the one I actually spent the most time with. In the beginning, we were considered the item…Bobby was secretive, and I didn’t like how that felt, so I told Louie about it–how I felt. And I said I think Bobby feels the same way, but we haven’t done anything, we’re not doing anything because he’s in a relationship. Well that took some time to deal with.”
